Breastfeeding is natural, yes. But easy? Not always. 

For many mums, breastfeeding can feel like a full-time job with no clock-off time especially in those early days when you’re still figuring things out. The truth is, support makes all the difference. And sometimes it’s not the grand gestures but the small, intentional shifts that change everything. 

Here are three small but powerful shifts that can help you feel more supported on your breastfeeding journey whether you’re navigating cluster feeds, nipple pain, supply worries, or just the sheer exhaustion of it all. 

1. Help Yourself by Making Nourishment Easy 

One of the simplest ways to support your breastfeeding body is to prioritise nourishment but that doesn’t mean gourmet meals or pulling off a week of meal prep. 

Try stocking up on easy, one-handed snacks you can actually eat while feeding: think bliss balls, crackers and cheese, pre-cut fruit, nut butters, or Lila Jasmine’s lactation bars. Having something nutritious within reach can make a surprising difference to your energy and mood during long or frequent feeds. 

Another great idea is creating a feeding station - a basket by your couch or bedside with essentials like snacks, water, a burp cloth, nipple balm, and an extra phone charger. These small setups feel like big acts of self care. 

2. Ask for Help Clearly and Often 

A lot of mums feel like they should be able to do it all. But asking for help is not a weakness, it's a way to protect your energy and sanity.

The truth is, most people are dying to help you, they just don’t want to overstep or say the wrong thing. That’s why being specific makes it so much easier for everyone. Instead of hoping someone picks up on your cues try saying: 

• “Can you please fold this washing?” or
• “Could you cuddle the baby after the next feed so I can rest?” People genuinely want to be useful, they just need a little direction.

3. Let Your Partner or Support Person Play an Active Role 

It’s easy for breastfeeding to become something only you do but it doesn’t have to feel that way. Partners and support people can take on all sorts of roles: 

• Refill your water or bring you a snack mid-feed
• Settle the baby afterward so you can rest
• Handle nappies, housework, or errands
• Advocate for your needs when visitors or pressure pile up 

A small mindset shift from “I have to do it all” to “We’re doing this together” can make a big difference in how supported you feel. 

Build Your Support Before You Need It 

You can’t always predict what life with a new baby will bring but you can set yourself up for smoother days. 

Creating a postpartum plan during pregnancy is one of the most powerful things you can do. It helps you map out your support team, set realistic expectations, and prepare for common challenges before you hit them. 

You can download a free postpartum plan from Lila Jasmine HERE to map out your 4th trimester support in pregnancy. It’s not about perfection it’s about feeling steadier and more supported as you ease into motherhood. 

This article was written by Renata Lardelli — a registered nurse, midwife, and mum of three. She’s also the founder of Lila Jasmine Nutrition, the only brand in Aotearoa making premium lactation bars right here in New Zealand. Renata is passionate about supporting mums with simple, nourishing tools that reflect the real needs of the 4th trimester and beyond.